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acted one of the worst cases of genital herpes I had ever seen. Her pain was physical and I could help that. But I couldn’t kill the herpes—it would return for the rest of her life. After Abigail learned of her herpes, she left my office with a few packets of pills to deaden the sting of the disease. But that wasn’t the worst part. She told her boyfriend that he had given her herpes, and then he told (what felt to her) the entire world. Her peers made fun of her. His friends dubbed her “Miss Herpes” and even her close friends stayed away from the infected girl. After six months of rejection, Abigail went home after school one day and in the quiet of her bathroom swallowed a bottle of Tylenol.
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ine has skyrocketed over the past 25 years. Why did she allow oral sex one day? And why did she try to kill herself afterward—even though she kept her virginity? The reasons are complex and the answers not for the weak-hearted. Abigail is a child victim of a toxic sexual culture, which you and I have created. We—those who gave momentum to the sexual revolution of the 70’s—have unleashed a horror of physical, emotional and spiritual pains upon our children. And we must do something about it. Abigail’s problem is our problem because she is a child with incomplete cognitive maturity and cannot fix the ills of such great magnitude. We must do it for her.
*Physical Fallout of the Sexual Revolution* Several years ago, after one too many Abigails in my office, I turned to the medical literature to determine if my experience was unique. I naively hoped that I had a skewed medical practice. Perhaps I had an unusual affinity for teens with depression and STD’s. This is what I uncovered. According to the Centers for Disease Control, the U.S. is experiencing an epidemic of STD’s amongst our youth—the likes of which we have never before seen. In 1960, the U.S. contended with gonorrhea and syphilis alone. A quick injection of penicillin in the buttocks, and a patient was on his way. By 2000, we had approximately 30 STD’s. According to the New England Journal of Medicine, one in five people over 12 years old tests positive for genital herpes. And in 2002, Sexually Transmitted Diseases Journal stated in an article that if we don’t dramatically change course, 39 percent of all men and 49 percent of all women in the U.S. would have genital herpes by 2025. Now, I am not an alarmist by nature. Colleagues for embracing a Polly-Annish enthusiasm for teens have even occasionally chided me. But friends, we have a very, very serious problem on our hands. Amongst our youth, we have not one, but numerous strains of the Humanpapilloma virus, which causes 97 percent of all cervical cancer. And did you know that the number of women who die from cervical cancer in the U.S. annually rivals the number of women who die from AIDs? Ah, but, we always have the condom, you say to yourself. This past May, I testified before a Congressional committee as Dr. Julie Gerberding, head of the CDC, released her report on prevention of HPV infections in women. Much to the dismay of many on the committee, Dr. Gerberding reported that condoms could no longer be considered the primary means of prevention. This is due to the fact that HPV, like other viral infections (i.e., Herpes type 1 and Herpes type 2), are transmitted from skin-toskin.
*The Emotional Toll* The literature regarding the cause and effect of sexual activity and depression among teens is slim. Research from the medical literature clearly confirms an association between sex and depression in teens. But which comes first—depression or sexual activity? Over 20 years I’ve seen thousands of teens, and I rarely see a sexually active teen girl or boy who doesn’t struggle at some point with low self-esteem, regret, confusion or mild to severe depression. Why would this be? While the literature may not dissect the problem, let us apply sound psychological principles. Consider the losses incurred from sexual activity during the teen years.
*Loss of Control* Internalizing parental authority and defining an order and discipline to one’s world is crucial to healthy psychological maturity during the teen years. We emphatically teach teens to take control of their athletic and academic endeavors, that they have the capacity to avoid drugs and alcohol and to discipline their speech and behavior towards others. Yet when it comes to sexual activity, the adult community at large sends a loud message—“you cannot—nor should you have to—pull the reigns in on your sexual activity. Sexual impulses are too strong for you to effectively control.” Teens internalize the belief that all in their world can be controlled, but remain confused—even frightened—about sexual activity. It becomes this behavior, which is inevitable, powerful, and untamable. And it must be had in order to feel significant, adult-like or desirable. So a young girl gives it a try. Usually, sex brings neither pleasure, comfort nor lasting feelings of acceptance. Rather, it leaves her with a pile of losses to be grieved. For several moments, she was not in control—he was—or they were. Not multiple partners, perhaps, but an illusion was created in her mind that sex was unbelievable and she was missing out. She fell for the lie that she should not (could not) be in charge of her sexual feelings and surrendered them to another.
*Loss of Trust* Trusting a sexual partner taps into perhaps the greatest vulnerability a man or woman can feel. Modesty is a God-given, self-protective response to guard that which is most private. For a teen boy, peeling away the reflex to protect and expose his most intimate body parts and sensibilities connotes to another that his partner is trustworthy. She will accept and share a level of intimacy to which others do not yet know. These feelings may not be conscious and indeed our culture may sneer at their very presence, but we cannot be so callous. Even to the most hardened sexually active teen, they are real. Sex is intimate; it is mysterious and it demands trust when given to another. During the act itself the first level of trust can be broken. Physical pain, embarrassment or even disappointment that sex didn’t fulfill expectations leaves a teen feeling cheated by his partner. After the sexual act, teens go home or back to school. In most cases, the sexual couple breaks up. When the break occurs, trust is again broken because the precious piece given was taken away for good. It is interesting to note that one of the reasons for the increase in popularity of oral sex among teens is to guard one’s virginity. Even to sexually experienced teens, virginity is honorable and desirable.
*Loss of Intimacy* One of the greatest needs our Father has given each human is the need for deep connection—not only with Him, but also with other humans. The ultimate form of emotional, physical and spiritual connection is the sexual act. Funny, even as Abercrombie, MTV and Madonna force their tentacles into the tender psyches of our children, ironically teaching that sex is everything, and yet it is nothing; teens know better. All of them know. The truth that sex is a profound expression of intimacy rests in the conscience of almost every child. And this truth wins. So, when the teen girl engages in sex, subconsciously, she hopes for an experience of deep connection. She wants something—to be seen, loved, appreciated, and valued. These, she hopes, will come from the sexual experience. When she walks awa ba z z Dating Blonde Korean 99 nk Single Dating Movie